“sound: entire, not shaky, healthy, founded in truth, and undisturbed.”
I have not been given a spirit of fear, anxiety, stress, overwhelm or anger. These feelings do not own me nor do they define me. Neither do they own my motherhood.
In Christ I can and do receive the power of a healthy, stable, truth filled mind capable of parenting my children. This doesn’t mean motherhood will be easy, but it encourages me to wake up every morning determined to love and teach my little ones well.
- Even when I yelled for the 100th time.
- Even when mom guilt creeps in.
- Even when my anger is lashing out and my pride feels threatened.
- Even when I’m sitting defeated in the bathroom floor…
It is never too late to recognize the feelings of overwhelm or anger and instead pray for peace and patience in that moment. It is never too late to humble myself in front of my children, modeling how to admit I was wrong and ask forgiveness. It is never too late for God to step in and redeem my motherhood (even if for the 5th time that day).
How do you grow? By trusting that God will provide you with His power, His love and His sound mind (full of truth and wisdom). We always have his help. He will never let us fail.
When I choose to pause and seek His help, I am better for it. My kids are better for it. My husband is better for it. The kingdom is better for it.
The next time you feel overwhelm or anger creeping up in your motherhood:
- Pause and pray for peace, wisdom and patience to parent your child in love.
- Turn on worship music, scoop up your child and sing praises to God together.
- Wrap your child up in a huge hug or snuggle on the couch for a minute. Physical touch can be a powerful reset button for both you and your child.
- Take a 5-minute time out if you need it. Get some fresh air, breathe and allow yourself (and your child) to calm down.
- Get in the Word daily. Even if it’s one verse you reflect on all day. Filling yourself with truth will help you recognize when the lies of mom guilt are trying to tear you down.
- Text a friend and share your struggles with them, asking for prayer on your behalf. It’s not selfish. And do the same for her. We were made for community.
“Father, help me to pause and choose to seek you in these incredibly hard, frustrating and overwhelming moments of motherhood. I am so far out of my comfort zone, so aware of my own sinfulness and anger, so broken-hearted over the effects it has on my children.
Take this feeling of mom guilt and shame that we’re never mine to carry and teach me how to parent with grace and mercy, love and truth. I know I won’t get it perfect, I know I need your guidance. I know You will be faithful to fill in the gaps where I can not.
Let my children see you Lord. Let my motherhood be a reflection of your goodness and glory and your love for them. Help me to admit when I am wrong to them and to always be honest with them and lead them by example. I don’t want them to remember a mom who tried to be perfect, but instead a mom who faithfully loved God and fiercely loved them. Amen.”